Oh, baby! What now?
It’s finally out: our annual Baby Issue, highlighting that glorious stage of parenting — the first one — with all its mind-blowing joys, mystifying, frustrating challenges and personal growth you never thought possible!
How could you love something this much? And — oh, yeah — why is it so hard? (Remember when you used to compare your dog or cat to your friends’ kid? Ha!)
Is it how you thought it would be?
For me, it wasn’t.
Yes, the lack of sleep was hard.
But my biggest problem (not that big in retrospect) was that our baby wasn’t mellow, sitting back, contently, during long stretches like my friends’ kids did.
And I was no Madonna, perfectly nursing her peaceful child. I was restless. I couldn’t believe how much time I needed to spend sitting still for nursing!
Though our son had many moments of being delightful in his first few months (his first smiles were pure charm, his alertness was impressive), he cried a lot and was eventually “diagnosed” by the pediatrician as having colic.
In our Baby issue (September), we've got the full story on this mysterious affliction. We also have tons of advice for new parents, brought to you by Minnesota moms and dads who’ve been through it all (and follow Minnesota Parent on Facebook). What they’ve discovered with hindsight is valuable: You can do this, Mom and Dad. You’re smarter and stronger than you think you are!
Are you planning or expecting a second child? In the Baby issue (read the whole thing on Issuu), you’ll also find tips for helping your first born grow into that big brother or big sister role!
Also with this issue, we’re bringing another mama writer into the fold — Dr. Kimara Gustafson, a Maplewood pediatrician with a young child of her own. She tackles the issue of ceaseless infant spit-up, plus over-eager toddler eaters. (Don’t worry: Dr. Peter Dehnel will continue to write for us regularly as well!)
Though I wasn’t a huge fan of the baby stage — and went crazy with disbelief every time someone said: “Cherish every second. It goes so fast!” — I can say now (as a mother of a 6-year-old) I can see more clearly what those people were trying to say: Whether you have just one child (like me) or 20, each one will go through each stage only once, for better or for worse.
So live in the moments of babyhood (try to focus on the bright spots). Be as present as you can.
Hold that baby. Rock her. Baby him.
Because when it’s gone, it really is gone.
Sarah Dorison is the Editor of Minnesota Parent magazine. She lives in Golden Valley. Write her at firstname.lastname@example.org.