REAL Parents // Becky Flansburg
Becky Flansburg is as brutally and hilariously real as a parent can be. Her blog FranticMommy crowns her “Queen of the Kingdom of Tired” and records the challenges and rewards of raising two children, Jake and Sara. Jake is adopted while Sara is her birth child, though both carry her feisty, sassy spirit.
Flansburg, with two fellow Brainerd, MN moms, started Lakes Area Mom Squad, or LAMS, which compiles and distributes coupon books with discounts to mom-owned or mom-friendly businesses in the area. The LAMS blog reviews these businesses and provides links to their websites. Also on her to-do list are Flansburg’s Saraboo Travel Activity Bags, which are full of entertaining goodies for trips with less-than-happy campers.
How are you able to blog from home with kids around?
Some people sleep in on weekends … not this chick. I still get up at 5:00. My kids sleep in until 8:00-ish; that gives me almost three hours of “creative time.” I am not on my computer much during the day on weekends because that’s family time. I am a firm believer that kids and family should be the center of your universe, not living on the outskirts of it.
Do you put LAMS (since it is a collaborative effort) before other work?
Saraboo Travel Activity Bags for Kids is very small. I have couple of resorts and hotels in my area that do a great job selling my bags. LAMS takes a little more attention and I put that before anything because I take it very seriously that businesses have entrusted me with their time and money on this project. Word-of-mouth is by far our best way to attract new “Mom Squaders”, but we recently joined our Chamber of Commerce and it’s been one of the smartest moves we’ve ever made. It felt good to join because I’ve always been an advocate of our Brainerd Lakes Chamber. I am the chair of our Main Street Promotions Committee and recently started with the Member Outreach Committee. Apparently I didn’t already have enough to do.
Have you discussed your son’s adoption with him? Have you had challenges having one adopted and one birth child?
Our son is almost eight and we’ve had the “you grew in someone else’s tummy” talk. We’ve had an open dialogue about it for a few years. People sometimes don’t realize they are being hurtful when they ask about my son’s “real mom.” I’m not a fake mom so I must be his real mom, right? We encourage words like “birth mom” or “placed for adoption” instead of “gave up.” Our son was a domestic adoption from right here in Minnesota so he blends. He looks just like us and especially like my hubby. It’s cool how God works in special ways.
Our youngest we “cooked ourselves” with the help of a doctor and some yucky shots. She just turned 5 and is 40 pounds of … diva attitude. In our eyes, there’s no difference between the two. They are OUR KIDS. Period. We love them equally, and they drive us nuts equally. We don’t think differently about either one, and don’t treat them any different. We are super-proud of both of our kids because they are hard-fought-hard-won. I think that makes us both more grateful to even BE parents.
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