I recognized the expression on Meghan Markle’s face at today’s charity polo day in Berkshire.
The look of uncertainty.
Specifically, the uncertainty of a new mom out in public for the first time.
The expression is the same whether you’re a gorgeous princess or a suburban mom, whether you’re at a polo club or in a Hyvee check-out line.
Fear.
Fatigue.
Feigned smiles and baggy clothes.
I also recognized the expression on Kate Middleton’s face at the polo match.
Confident.
Dialed in.
Busy.
The multi-tasking mother of multiple kids.
I recognize both moms because I’ve been both moms.
I remember feeling like Meghan when my firstborn was brand new. I was holding my breath, fearing that she was about to cry, dreading the next time I would have to nurse and then pump and then nurse and then pump.
Now – six years later – I’m the mother of four. I’m catching my breath, chasing a toddler as I wear my baby in a carrier. I’m still tired. But I love breastfeeding. I have no dread. I’ve learned how to go with the flow.
For all the speculation about Meghan and Kate’s strained relationship, we really don’t know where they stand.
I do know this:
Both are busy.
Both have their hands full.
Both are great moms.
The pictures cast them in stark contrast, almost opposition.
But that does not have to be the case.
I hope they are finding ways to do what moms do best: connect and support each other.
I hope the same can be said for you and for me. I hope the Meghans in Minnesota don’t feel psyched out by the Kates. I hope the Kates remember what it felt like to be the Meghans. I hope we can support each other every step of the way.
We’re all busy.
We all have our hands full.
We’re all great moms.
Pictures from Independent.ie.
Christina Ries is a freelance writer who lives with her husband and four children in Inver Grove Heights. Read all her posts at mnparent.com/charmed.
